Have you ever been somewhere, and the sheer volume of noise makes you want to murder everyone that’s talking?
Maybe, maybe not. Such was my own experience this past weekend.
I was celebrating my girlfriends birthday with her and her family, and we went to a club in the downtown area. This place was LOUD.
Not just club loud, but rather shake the drinks on the counter loud. You could hear NOTHING. And to add to the volume, the place played a different song in different rooms of the club.
This created an utter cacophony from the 8th circle of hell, as if you got caught standing between two rooms, you had entirely different songs blasting you in the eardrums.
Now, my girlfriend, her hearing is not that great. She loves loud music, clubs, and her family is “loud” in general.
Myself, I have hypersensitive hearing, especially for certain frequencies. Subsequently, this put me into a very very bad mood.
After about 20 minutes, I was DONE. I had a massive headache, could not think straight, and had to outside for 15 minutes away from the crowds to decompress and let the headache subside.
I needed QUIET.
My girlfriend was surprised by all of this, and asked me how I go to clubs.
My answer, I DON’T. If a place is way too loud, I leave. So while I’ve gone out many times, Im always selective, and I never put myself anywhere that’s auditorily aggravating. I never thought much of this nor even told another person until this weekend.
Quiet is underrated in modern society. We all live in an information abundant society and we idealize the ability to be hyperconnected, wired in, and “aware” of what is going on 24/7. Digital information in the brain has the same effect as physical clutter in the environment, it crowds us, mentally surrounds us, and slows us down.
The irony being, we can access “information” so fast, that we are deluded into believing we think faster because of it; we don’t.
The overload creates options fatigue, and indecisiveness. It makes it harder to focus.
On a mental level, this is stressful. And on a practical level, it makes it damned hard to make decisions, even simple ones.
Something as mundane as doing a “DB chest press” becomes 15 different decisions before you’ve even chosen to do anything.
Compound that with trying to “eat healthily”, or trying to decide who’s supporting you and who is not,
or what to prioritize at work
or what to prioritize with kids
or what to do for a career,
So on and so forth, and life is a series of decisions that we fight and battle to make. Most of the modern world in fact is essentially a streamlining of decision making. All the technology we have to make things go faster, all the professions that exist to learn specialized pockets of information, and do the work for you. The world is more and more specialized, new experts arise and innovations happen daily. How do YOU make sense of all of it?
If you’re self aware, you likely research and try to find people who can “make sense” of information.
If you’re not aware, or if you exasperated, you might simply avoid making decisions at all. This is common. So long as the world gets more and more complicated, and it will, you will NEED to always be making sense of change.
You need to ask questions, and you need to find experts. Accept that you do not know everything.
I don’t know everything (very little in fact), but with health, that I can make sense of. I try to simplify this stuff for people, be it through food, training, coaching, etc.
I ask people questions to help answer their questions. You can do the same for yourself.
Seek quiet, ask questions, cut through the noise, and CHOOSE based on the best available information you can find